Specialized support for expecting parents who want their birth to be a positive experience.
Serving the East Bay, San Francisco, Marin, and beyond.
My full name is Pamela Star but I've always gone by Star. I’ve spent the last 20 years helping families experience birth in a way that feels grounded, supported, and truly empowering.
My path into this work began with a deep desire to rewrite the “birth horror stories” I kept hearing as a new mom. I wanted parents to walk away from their birth day feeling proud, strong, and connected — not traumatized or dismissed. That mission has guided everything I’ve done
since.
Over the past two decades, I’ve supported more than 350 families through their unique birth journeys. I’ve seen every kind of experience — joyful, challenging, fast, slow — and through them all, one truth has stood out: when people feel seen, prepared, and supported, birth can be positive.
As a doula, I bring both professionalism and warmth. My clients describe me as calm but assertive, nurturing yet confident — a steady presence who can ground any room. I’m not there to take over your birth or tell you what to do. I’m there to help you discover your own power, your voice, and your ability to move through this experience together.
You want to support during labor, but you’re worried you’ll freeze up or not know how to advocate when it matters most. I give you concrete tools and confidence.
You’ve heard so many birth stories, and they’re stuck in your head. You’re afraid you won’t know how to ask for what you need in the moment. We prepare for that together.
You want the birth to be intimate and personal — but also want a calm, experienced advocate who won’t take over your space. I am your steady, quiet anchor.
It’s the combination of time, attention, and genuine care.
I give my clients more time, more access, and more compassion. Weekly meetings from 34 weeks, prompt responses to questions, and extra phone calls when you need them. This deep investment in our relationship is what sets your birth up for success.
My personality and commitment create a perfect balance of professionalism and sisterly care. I know my magic: I help birth not suck.
I’m especially skilled with families who carry anxiety or past trauma into the birth space. If that’s you — I see you. I know how to hold space for that safely and gently.
Continuing access and support for as long as you need postpartum
You’re never alone wondering, “Is this it?” Immediate guidance when you need it.
Hands-on comfort, steady advocacy, and calm presence through every moment.
I focus solely on birth support — and I’ve spent 20 years perfecting it.
I pour all of my expertise into one comprehensive
birth package — giving you full preparation, advocacy, and care before, during, and after birth.
Documented birth preferences for your care team
Partner preparation to clarify each of your roles and strengths
Communication coaching for self-advocacy
Personalized birth planning based on your values and preferences
Weekly one-on-one meetings to build confidence and trust
24/7 availability from early labor
Continuous, hands-on support throughout labor
Tailored comfort measures that actually work
Calm, trauma-informed advocacy
Partner coaching for teamwork through birth
Ongoing access for questions and emotional support
Birth processing to help integrate your experience
Breastfeeding and newborn transition guidance
Let’s create the birth experience you deserve.
For Birth Doula inquiries please reach out via email with your estimated due date and where you plan on giving birth. I look forward to hearing from you!